I asked a preschooler, “Why do you love your mom?” She looked puzzled at me and said, “That is a silly question! I love her because I do.”
“I love her because I do”. Do you notice that a child does not say, “I love her, but…..” or “I love her if….” A child loves because he or she just does, nothing else. What a blessing that is to experience a love that is so unconditional and so pure and so confident. As “mature adults” we often are so conditional with our love. We love our husband, but we sure would be happier if he would make dinner for us. We love our wife, but we sure would be happier if she would dress up for us and hold our hand when we go out for dinner. We love our precious children, but it sure would be nice if they would pick up their toys or if they would do their homework without reminders or if they would call us more often. The list goes on and on. We love deeply, but we are happier when or if something else goes with it.
We can all get better at loving “just because”. We can all stop our expectations and love like a preschooler. We all did it at one time in our lives. It is never too late to get back to that question that maybe is silly to answer. Loving someone “just because” is something we can all do if we give it a try.
- Why do you love your mother?
- When was a time you remember conditions being put on love?
- Will you look for one person today that you can love unconditionally?
- Will you look for some mother or mother-to-be this week to wish a Happy Mother’s Day?
“Love isn’t finding a perfect person. It’s seeing an imperfect person perfectly.” Sam Keen