A preschool boy was making a crown and said, “Wow, my crown is cool!” The preschool girl smiled and said, “My crown is cool too!” The boy looked and said, “No, yours is pretty!” The girl quickly remarked, “No, my crown is cool, but look at my shoes. Now THOSE are pretty!”
English is a language that has pronouns that are used for genders. We use “he” and “she” and “his” and “hers”. Sometimes it is hard for children to get all of that straight as they talk. It is common for a preschooler to say, “Her isn’t sharing!!” When children learn Spanish, they must learn that nouns have genders. The adjectives change when the noun changes. That too can be hard for children to learn in the beginning. “El “ and “La” are used in front of nouns and have no English equivalent. Places that end in the letter “a” are feminine, yet other letters make places masculine.
Grammar has so many rules, and they vary in languages and cultures. As a child is learning language rules, he or she must also learn the culture. In my preschool world, girls often wear pink and purple with flowers and princesses. Boys often wear blue and red shirts with trucks and sports equipment on them. They start very early to use adjectives that are culturally gender specific. Girls and boys start quite young to fit into their groups. Words like “pretty” and “cute” get put into different categories than “radical” and “sharp”.
However, what would life be like if we could all wear the same crown and fit into the same group? What if everyone could be “cool” and not worry about what boys like and what girls like? We spend a lot of time worrying about how we look and how we can fit in. This starts at a preschool age and continues throughout our lives to certain degrees.
What we would all benefit from is letting our crown be worn on our inside instead of our outside. If we let our inner beauty shine for the world to see instead of getting caught up in the outside jewelry we put on, we could all stand strong, get along better and be at peace.
- What is really “cool” in your life?
- How would your life be different if you did not worry at all about what type of crown people saw you wear?
- Would your life be any different if you had “pretty shoes?”
“My crown is in my heart, not in my head, nor decked with diamonds and Indian stones, nor to be seen; my crown is called contentment; A crown it is, that seldom kings enjoy.” William Shakespeare
The Power of a Preschooler can change your life…..if you let it.