“What does your daddy want for Christmas?”

I asked a preschooler, “What does your daddy want for Christmas?” She smiled and said, “He wants to buy me a Tinkerbell and an Elsa dress and a Snow Globe Elsa doll, but it’s a secret so don’t tell him”

What is on your Christmas list?

What is on your Christmas list?

It is easy to think of children as greedy during the holiday season. There is a lot of “I want” and “I have to have” type phrases that come from their mouths. We try to share that it is better to give than to receive, but that is a hard concept for young children.

As much as I do a lot of servant oriented learning and helping preschoolers think beyond just themselves, this little girl’s request for her daddy for Christmas just had to make me smile. Fathers in their purest form are altruistic and generous beyond measure. They provide what a child needs without question. They allow a child to form a level of trust that helps them build toward self actualization so that other healthy needs are met. Without a foundation of trust, Maslow’s hierarchy of needs can lead to despair and depression all through adulthood.

A child who can trust her father and know him well enough that he will provide for her needs is a fortunate child. (Now the difference between needs and wants is a whole other blog entry. What do you really need for Christmas?   🙂 )

For those who celebrate Christmas, we have the opportunity to look at the most generous father in the universe. The creator of the universe is someone who gave the entire world his most prized asset as he sent his son as a baby. Earthly fathers do not always provide every need, but a heavenly father can give without ceasing. Kings love making little girls feel like a princess.

  •  How can we ask for our desires without sounding like we are selfish? (Desires do not have to be kept a secret.)
  • Who do you put your most trust in?
  • What do you think your heavenly father wants to give you for Christmas? 
  • What is something you could offer back in return for your daily gift of life?

“Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness.”

Martin Luther King, Jr.


“Do you like soup?”

I sat with a two year old picking and poking at her soup and never really eating any of it. I asked, “Do you like soup?” She didn’t answer. She would try the soup and then play with some toys and then try again, but playing always seemed to win. Then ice cream was mentioned in the kitchen. She ran into the kitchen and hopped into her chair to devour a bowl of ice cream. She then had another little bowl and stirred and stirred it. To her surprise it started to quickly melt. She looked bright-eyed into the bowl and said, “YES! I DO like soup!”

What soup would you choose to eat?

What soup would you choose to eat?

Sometimes to really embrace something we need to make a little change in it. Variety is said to be the spice of life, and sometimes we need to try more spices. We are quick to say we don’t like to travel only to really mean we are a little scared of the flight there, or we tell others we don’t like Mexican food when all we have tried is a spicy burrito. We lump too much into one category and don’t let the flavors mix and morph into new tastes.

If we keep trying new things, we are bound to find the good in them. We need to not give up too quickly. The sweet taste of ice cream soup may just be waiting for us all.

  • Think of a something you do not like to do.
  • Now think of any small part of that activity that you could possibly enjoy.
  • Was thinking of a positive aspect of a disliked activity easy or hard for you, and what might that say about your ability to find sweet ice cream soup?

“A first-rate soup is more creative than a second-rate painting.” Abraham Maslow